Reconnecting with the Coil: Why I’m Taking the "Lazy" Out of My Hair Care

I’ve been natural since 2018. Back then, the transition was a thrill. Even though it was a steep learning curve, I loved every second of the process. I loved watching my Type 4 hair grow, seeing how the textures changed, and figuring out what my curls actually needed.

But a funny thing happens when you finally get the length and thickness you were dreaming of. You start to underappreciate it.

I realized I was just expecting my hair to stay healthy without actually putting in the work. Last year, I spent almost the entire year in protective styles. I told myself I was "protecting" my hair or "optimizing growth," but if I’m being honest, I was just being lazy. A protective style stops being protective the moment you stop caring for the hair underneath it. I was hiding my curls because I didn't want to deal with the time they required.

This year, I realized I actually missed my hair. I missed the texture, the ritual, and the feeling of my own curls. And that's why I’m recommitting to giving my curls the love and attention they deserve.

Letting Go of Halfhearted Hair Care

My hair is longer and thicker than it’s ever been, which means it demands a higher level of respect. I can’t just coast on my 2018 excitement anymore. I have to show up for the version of my hair that exists today.

I’ve made a commitment to dedicate at least 5 minutes each day to its care - whether that means spritzing it with water, applying a nourishing leave-in conditioner, or sealing those precious ends. These moments are my way of reconnecting with my hair and giving it the attention it deserves.  A scalp massage? That’s my apology for the year I spent ignoring it. A little dusting of the ends? It’s my way of expressing gratitude for all the growth. It’s a way to reconnect with my hair and remind myself that it is a gift, not a burden.

The Sunday Reset as a Priority

The Sunday Reset is no longer something I’m trying to "get through." It’s the time I’m carving out to actually see my hair. Detangling, deep conditioning, and being intentional with my hair takes time, but it’s time well spent.

I’m moving away from the "out of sight, out of mind" mentality of constant back-to-back protective styles. I want to see my curls. I want to feel the weight of my hair. I want to be the kind of person who honors the growth I’ve achieved instead of just hiding it away because it’s "easier."

So, as I embrace this Sunday Reset, I’m not just resetting my hair routine; I’m resetting my mindset. I’m choosing to prioritize this time as a celebration of my hair’s uniqueness and a commitment to self-love.

The Crown and the Process 

I’m done being lazy with my curls. I’m ready to do the work, enjoy the thickness, and finally give my Type 4 crown the care it’s been waiting for. This journey isn’t just about maintaining my hair; it’s about embracing the thickness and vitality that come with it. Each strand is a testament to my journey, and I’m excited to give my crown the love and attention it has been patiently waiting for.